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 on: February 11, 2018, 01:50:15 PM 
Started by Anm0631 - Last post by Anm0631
Hi , just to sum it up me and my husband are married for almost two year and been on and off dating for 6 years before that. I feel like we have communications differences which causes arguments or disagreements frequently. We just had a baby 7 months ago. Before we were married we lived in different states and never lived which each other before hand. So when we would meet up we would have these great adventures and I would be more confident and adventures in intimacy between the sheets. We haves a few bumps in the road . Fast forward to now , I'm not interested in having sex with him, I could go a month or so without having sex. But he would want to have sex way more often than that and has even suggested having a open marriage together or him having a girlfriend to have sex with since I do not want to. I feel like I'm losing him but at the same time he is asking simple task of me to do intimate acts for him but I kind of feel not safe opening my vulnerable self to him in fear of regection or embarrament , I love my husband but it feels like our sex drive and wants and needs are totally off page. Also on how and what we communicate to each other. He says he's sexually frustrated and doesn't want to open up to me because he's frustrated and I'm frustrated that I don't feel emotional taken care of in the sense of feelings. He's. Type of person that's blunt and will critize or defensively talk and it makes me feel reluctant to be intimate with him or even open up to him emotionally and talk about these things. I'm am a very coy person and do not like talking about intimate thing such as desires and wants and it frustrates him.

 on: February 09, 2018, 07:15:30 PM 
Started by pinklady - Last post by pinklady
Hi Guys, I am a 31 y.o female, came from an abusive family, never been in a relationship because of my fear of getting pregnant/fear of abortion etc. Birth control never worked for any of the girls in my family. Both my cousin and sister had hysterectomies from the IUD in their early 20's, and my cousin almost committed suicide on the pill (yes she tried different ones). My sister also has been on different pills and has even spent up to months in the hospital or months straight up bleeding and we are very similar biologically. I was on birth control briefly in high school and I ended up getting very sick and gaining over 150 lbs within a couple of months… needless to say it was not good for me + I KNEW in my body something was very wrong.I got off of them + started to feel less depressed and healthier and my weight went down. My sister also accidentally also got pregnant even though she was on the pill and they had condoms, and when she miscarried she almost bled to death + was hospitalized. She still has PTSD from the trauma, which also affects her functioning at work. My other cousin also nearly died from an accidental pregnancy (ecotopic), on top of this my best friend had to have multiple kidney stone surgeries that were fairly severe due to her b.c. The whole thing is VERY traumatizing to me + I never even want to have children ever anyways due to the abuse I experienced growing up- NOR the risk of experiencing any sort of body/ptsd trauma as a result. I am super sensitive/fertile and cannot deal. I never want to have children or be that vulnerable biologically or emotionally or go through that. I tried to get my tubes tied by multiple doctors but they won't let me do it until I have already had one or two children. I can't seem to figure out a way around this. It really is preventing me from any sort of pleasure or relaxing. I tried requiring that my partners have vascetomies, /condoms at all times….you can guess that that didn't work + every man I have dated has left after I stated this as a request + shared my fear of pregnancy, and my desires around this. It literally is the BIGGEST fear of my life. I would rather be homeless, or stabbed than have to deal with an abortion/ an accidental pregnancy. But I LOVE mastrubating, I have orgasms easily etc. I just sort of instantly go cold if there is cum or a mans penis in near sight, it has really prevented me from ever getting close to a man, or getting constantly abandoned in my relationships.I am not sure what to do about it at this point. The fear is real because I just can tell I would attract that sort of medical terror into my life. I am 31 + I am obviously a virgin. At this point I feel like I won’t have sex until I am 60. Dry humping seems to be the only solution, but men hate it. My fear is legitimate, this shit happens regularly. sex is impossible without seriously tensing up and having some major anxiety and disconnection ,terror.Is there just no solution?

 on: January 01, 2018, 09:25:26 PM 
Started by Krammit - Last post by Krammit
My man has no sex drive anymore because he's stressed out and tired. I'm getting to the beyond frustrated point now and I was just going to ask if it would be rude of my to grab one of my toys and start taking care of my own needs while we're laying in bed together watching TV? I don't know if it would be messed up for me to do that but if it were the other way around and I wasn't giving him what he needed I wouldn't mind. So can you folks help me out please??? Thanks in advance!

 on: November 27, 2017, 05:55:37 PM 
Started by kevrudda - Last post by kevrudda
Hi yall
In a bit of a pickle.
Basically started seeing this new girl and its all great, but just cant get hard whenever we try to bang and dont know what to do.
Im 19 years old, never done it but had experience with other stuff and never had a problem getting up then. Its happed about 3 times now. First time I was drunk and tired as so just blamed it on that, and the second time i was a little drunk and a little tired but definitely not enough to make a difference  but still the same result. This is real weird but i can only describe as what im getting is semi hard with need to pee. Even if ive gone toilet it still feels like I need to pee and just not at all aroused down there. Its really annoying, I feel like a loser for the next couple days and cant get hard for a couple days after cause i just feel annoyed.

Im reasonably fit and health/ dont smoke so I know thats not a problem. Some people blame it on porn so ive stopped watching that and wank less. SHould mention I have no problem getting it up when shes not around so I know its all mental but dont know what to do. Maybe viagra for the frist time (really rather not though). Ive read people say pleasure her and wait, but i cant take my mind off it while i am so nothing happens. Any tips heaps appreciated.

(erectile disfunction)

 on: November 08, 2017, 08:31:53 PM 
Started by Popeye33 - Last post by Popeye33
So I ve been with this lady for a wile now and have had sex very often in the beginning of the relationship and I was having issues finishing. well I thought it was the drinking cause we were always drinking every time we had sex. than there was a week we didn't drink and still had the same problem . so I thought it was because I was just getting over a previous 18 year relationship. so thought it was my head playing tricks on me  than the ex cam over one day and we had sex. almost immediately I finished . the next morning same thing . so I knew something was off. she left said she didn't want anything to do with me anymore and I went back to the lady im with now . still having problems finishing . even noticed she felt different during sex. and then she mentioned one day she had a hysterectomy.  so I started to research hysterectomy. turns out she no longer has a cervix the part that stimulates my penis. Now I really like this lady and everything is fine except its getting to me that I cant finish conventionally. and its kind a makes me go soft a little early . I had figured the issue out and Ive discuss this with her cause she was getting annoyed that I wasn't finishing also. she has no problem doing other things to get me to finish  but Im getting a little board banging away sometimes and there is no stimulation . is there a fix for this .

 on: August 31, 2017, 02:30:33 AM 
Started by balubhau - Last post by pink23
You seem to have passion and wanting to satisfy your girl and her sensing that should be very helpful, I can sense my husbands true sexual passion and that always leads to satisfying sex.

 on: July 18, 2017, 05:07:39 PM 
Started by Finerdreams - Last post by Finerdreams
My husband hasn't had sex with me in 3 years. I try to initiate, but am always shot down. He won't talk to me about it. We've been together 27 years, married 25. We used to have sex all the time, then in later years, once a week, once a month and now nothing. I have changed since we got married. Health issues galore including Multiple Sclerosis and Diabetes. I gained a LOT of weight. I don't know what to do. Toys are getting useless. One of my "good friends" won't even have an affair with me. I'm getting a complex. What should I do? Who's got some good suggestions? I will not answer flippant replies.

 on: July 06, 2017, 06:13:41 PM 
Started by shadow2013 - Last post by shadow2013
I am a 26 year old woman who has been in a steady relationship for the past 9 years, over the past 2 years I have noticed a decrease in my libido but it has gotten to a point where I have no sex drive at all, zero, nada, nothing!!!! This is causing arguments between my partner and me and also a lot of frustration on my behalf, and I really don't know what to do to make things better. At first I thought that maybe it could have something to do with my oral contraceptive, so I stopped taking it for a few months and there was no difference, then my partner put it down to the fact that we had gotten ourselves into a routine so we tried doing thing differently that helped a bit at first but then back to square one. I really don't know what to do or to try anymore and I really want to make this better for my partner but most of all for myself. If anyone can help me with this I would be most grateful.

 on: June 17, 2017, 03:36:06 AM 
Started by Lisamlong1 - Last post by Lisamlong1
My husband and I have only been married for one year.  At first we had sex every day - sometimes 2 or 3 times a day.  We couldn't keep our hands off of each other.  But for the past few months we hardly ever have sex.  I wear sexy underwear to bed and short shorts during the day but when I try to initiate sex he just laughs and says "get off me you nympho!"  He hates talking about it but when he does he says it's stress or he's tired.  We're both young - only 37 and 38.  I get hit on all the time by other men but I want my husband!  Has he lost interest in me sexually?  If so, what can I do?

 on: February 11, 2017, 12:11:30 PM 
Started by balubhau - Last post by M.D.
If you can satisfy your girlfriend then I guess you can satisfy any women.

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